One of the hottest topics of our time is the "#Me Too" movement addressing the horrific impacts of men accused of everything from inappropriate sexual behavior, to rape, serial rape and assault have had on their victims.
I am so grateful for all of the courageous women and men who have brought their experiences into the light in this very public way. I can only imagine that fear and intimidation continue to keep many silent.
This is a time of reckoning. The culture I've been raised in is seriously patriarchal and archaic. Men have given men permission to behave in inappropriate ways by example over the years. We as men have to begin modeling a new way of being. There are many men coming together around the world that are taking a hard look at their behaviors and their impacts. They are starting to undo these culturally imposed behaviors and becoming more accountable. It's a good start that needs to be supported and continued.
I was listening to a couple of friends that are involved in "The Mankind Project", an international men's organization. They were discussing the idea that both men and women have masculine and feminine energies, or character, if you will. They talked about the idea that recognizing and embracing these similarities may allow us all to begin communicating more deeply, by sharing from an open heart instead of from our heads, and begin to really experience how we are impacting one another through our words and actions.
Can you imagine how fulfilling this might be, how genuine heart to heart communication alone could impact our lives? I believe this to be true. I believe people may be more responsive to these new ideas in this evolutionary era.
Now is the time to begin constructive discussions around behavioral impacts and this old school culture of male dominance in the workplace, at home, and in our society. It is time to let go of these old culturally imposed ways of being and try something new.
Women and Men want to be heard, seen, acknowledged, and loved, we all do. When we take the time to listen, really listen to one another, we begin to become vulnerable. Vulnerability is the medicine for powerful transformation. If I have the courage to become vulnerable with you and get over my fear of being taken advantage of I am more likely to share my truth with you, and as a result, you with me. This is where true healing and transformation begins.
It is time for men and women to recognize each other as equal and worthy of respect. We are all human beings. I am not suggesting that we move from a patriarchal order toward a matriarchal one either. Maybe the world could benefit from a more balanced cultural blend around gender and leadership, or an entirely new culture, "Equiarchal" perhaps.
Consider the hot light that is being shined on these issues as courageous women and men are telling their stories and are finally being heard. Now is the time for us to really listen and acknowledge the oppressive culture and ideals we were taught growing up, and begin to create positve cultural change.
Consider looking at where your cultural experience is having a negative impact on our society. Are you willing to talk about it? Are you willing to become vulnerable and take a chance at having a powerful and lasting impact on our present and future?